# What to do when someone is obviously feeling bad
#permanentnote
## Source
- [[Simon Sinek TED interview 2021]]
## Keywords (topics and howto)
- [[topic - live a great life]]
- [[topic - leading and managing]]
- [[topic - mentoring, advising and coaching]]
- [[how to build trust]]
- [[how to build a team]]
- [[how to do one to one]]
- [[how to be a better leader]]
- [[how to be a better father]]
- [[how to be a better communicator]]
- [[how to have a long-term relationship]]
## Relevant notes
- [[zt - giving an A]]
- [[zt - be proactive]]
- [[zt - let them lead]], by asking you are giving the initiative to the other person. This implies also being ready for the agenda ([[zt - POMO]]) to change and [[zt - do the next right thing]].
- [[zt - auto-healing team]]
- [[zt - communication techniques]]
- [[zt - give space to the individual]]
- [[zt - management and leadership]]
- [[zt - feedback is always welcome]]
- [[zt - candour is a powerful word]]
- [[zt - everyone wants to feel secure]]
- [[zt - everyone craves understanding]]
- [[zt - we see based on our narrative]] and getting the answer can change the narrative
## Notes
This can happen in face-to-face meetings as well as in conf-calls
Instead of asking a question like "how are you?" --- that can be answered by *fine*. Use *Something is wrong, I want to help*