# zt - taking responsibility for our feelings ## Source - [[book - Non-violent-communication]] ## Keywords (topics and howto) - [[topic - leading and managing]] - [[topic - information management]] - [[topic - communicate effectively]] - [[how to be a better father]] - [[how to be a better leader]] - [[how to make sense of the world]] - [[how to be a better communicator]] ## Related notes - [[zt - NVC summary]] - [[zt - expressing feelings]] ## Notes To take responsibility for your feelings use a sentence like: > "I feel ... because I need ..." What others say can be the STIMULUS, but not the cause of our feelings. ### What to do when we get a negative message 1. Blame us. (WRONG) 2. Blame others. (WRONG) 3. Sense our own feelings and needs. Focus on our own feeling and needs. What I want. (OK) 4. Sense other feeling and needs. Focus on the other feelings and needs. (BEST)