# Grieving happens often #permanentnote ## Source - [[Private/Journal/References/Anya]] - [[Private/Journal/References/Christophe Leroy]] - [[book - Who moved my cheese]] as a nice representation of the grieving for things that are no more ## Keywords (topics and howto) - [[topic - live a great life]] learn grief and follow the path when it happens to you - [[topic - leading and managing]] your team might be grieving - [[topic - communicate effectively]] be mindful of where people are in their grieving journey if your talk will impact it - [[topic - having a great relationship]] - [[topic - mentoring, advising and coaching]] - [[how to build trust]] - [[how to be a better father]] - [[how to be a better leader]] - [[how to be a better advisor]] - [[how to be a better communicator]] - [[how to be a better communicator]] - [[how to have a long-term relationship]] ## Notes, inc. relevant notes - [[zt - auto-healing team]] - [[zt - avoiding common biases]] - [[zt - ask a lot, shut up and listen]] - [[zt - everyone craves understanding]] - [[zt - we see based on our narrative]] - [[zt - everyone wants to feel secure]] so let them be secure in the journey - [[zt - most people do not believe something can happen until it already has]] then they will probably grief the past - [[zt - all customers want someone that takes away their worries and problems]] but grieving issues must be fought - Grieving is about loss, and is not limited to death. During COVID-19 we are all grieving some things. Grieving the changes, like the office and its interaction. - Grieving happens for important loses like: - death - job lose - love lose - divorce - aspiration being crushed - business failure - ![[Grief stages.png]] - 8 phases of grief 1. Shock 2. Denial 3. Frustration 4. Depression 5. Acceptance 6. Connecting with meaning and purpose 7. Decision 8. Integration - Accepting that you cannot avoid going through the 8 phases, what you want is to go through the 8 phases of grief as fast as possible. This is what people call resilience. - [[article - Connection of grief and resilience]] a published article - Persons that manage to go through all the phases fast have **resilience**. Let me repeat, resilience is simply the capacity to "get over it". - We are constantly grieving for something and how much it impacts us is based on the first habit ([[zt - be proactive]]) of [[book - The 7 habits of highly effective people]]. - People do not like change and will grief the old ways. [[book - Who moved my cheese]] - We all suffered a trauma during COVID (2020-2022) on the [[Simon Sinek TED interview 2021]]