# NVC summary ## Source - [[book - Non-violent-communication]] ## Keywords (topics and howto) - [[topic - leading and managing]] - [[topic - negotiation and sales]] - [[topic - live a great life]] - [[topic - communicate effectively]] - [[topic - having a great relationship]] - [[how to simplify life]] by not having to shout and get emotional too often - [[how to be a better self]] - [[how to be a better leader]] - [[how to be a better father]] - [[how to have a long-term relationship]] - [[how to be a better communicator]] ## Related notes - [[zt - powerful meetings]] - [[zt - auto-healing team]] - [[zt - building good habits]] - [[zt - finding your voice]] - [[zt - we crave human contact]] - [[zt - negotiation techniques]] - [[zt - communication techniques]] ## Notes The NVC process is valid for speaking, listening, and being silent. When talking with someone we are asking for something, making the task explicit is the best way to get our need fulfilled ### Summary of expressing using NVC - When I (see, hear) ... - I feel ... - because I need/value ... - would you be willing to ... ### The four components of NVC 1. Observation - The concrete actions we observe that affect out well-being 2. Feelings - How we feel in relation to what we observe 3. Needs - The good needs that create our feelings 4. Requests - The concrete action we request in order to enrich our life ### After sharing openly we need either: 1. listener's feelings 2. listener's thoughts 3. is the listener willing to tak a particular action?